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Ann Coulter

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Dennis Prager

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Mike Adams

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William D. Gairdner

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Barbara Kay

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John Stossel

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S. Wray Gregoire
Latest posts by S. Wray Gregoire (see all)

Ann Coulter

Investigate This!

The Republicans are back in charge in the House...

Liberals Give ‘Til It Hurts (You)

Liberals never tire of discussing their own generosity, particularly...

Scrooge Was A Liberal

It’s the Christmas season, so godless liberals are citing...

Like a Condom, the First Amendment Can’t Always Protect You

First of all, I feel so much more confident...

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Don’t Call Our Troops Homophobes

The Pentagon’s poll on “don’t ask, don’t tell” is...

Dennis Prager

America, Not Keith Ellison, Decides What Book A Congressman Takes His Oath On

Keith Ellison, D-Minn., the first Muslim elected to the...

Why I Smoke (Cigars)

There are few personal confessions more likely to alienate...

The Smugness Of The War’s Opponents

In this week’s New York Times Book Review, a...

Is A Gay Who Opposes Same-Sex Marriage A Hypocrite?

Why did a gay prostitute tell the media about...

Note To Angry Republicans: Stay Angry, But Vote Republican

One repeatedly hears that some conservatives and Republicans will...

Mike Adams

Kids Write Obama on Abortion; Obama Misplaces Them

I’m getting sick and tired of the Obama administration...

Stand For Life

A former student recently emailed that she was disappointed...

Fellowship in the Woodlands

Most of America's problems are cultural. Even our economic...

A Queer Need for Rejection

Whenever I write about the issue of First Amendment...

Left State University

William Irvine is a professor of philosophy at Wright...

Salim Mansur

Israel: Decades-old conflict not about to cease

Since 9/11, western powers have behaved more or less...

The better man lost the U.S. election

There will be scores of books written and words...

The puzzle in U.S. presidential elections

The role of the electoral college in American politics...

Bad egg about to roll out of White House

In less than two weeks, Americans will either elect...

Free speech distinguishes the West from the rest

In Crowds and Power, the late Elias Canetti, a...

William D. Gairdner

Canada’s Thought Police ~ Shame On Us!

Below is a story that appeared in the New...

Religion, Sex, and the City

At the recent McGill Conference, I was asked to...

A Fun Debate

This past weekend I participated in the annual Civitas...

Restoring A Pro-Family State

We see hints of it every day now. I...

From History to Harper and the “nation” situation

The commentary below is one citizen’s best effort to...

Barbara Kay

Why Quebec is banning the burka

Whether they admit it or not, virtually all Westerners...

I distrust Obama—but that doesn’t make me paranoid

Like many Canadians, I find American politics have a...

The cult of multisexualism: It’s not all good

Sex education in the schools isn’t new. As John...

Every week is Sex Week

Yale University is arguably the most prestigious institution of...

Male Studies: A proposed curriculum

The 93rd anniversary of the battle of Vimy Ridge,...

John Stossel

Are Americans Cheap?

The New York Times and Washington Post editorialize about...

Working Mothers Need The Free Market, Too

Last week, my “20/20” co-anchor, Elizabeth Vargas, returned from...

White Guilt Doesn’t Help Blacks

Complaints about racism dominate the media discussion of the...

Property Theft In America

Do you live in a blighted home in a...

Birdwatching, Government Style

Here’s a job that’s really for the birds: staring...

Paul Jackson

Suzuki playing gutter politics

I have likely never seen a more outrageous, mean-spirited...

Grit record terror-ible

The hypocrisy of our nation’s federal Liberals obviously knows...

Britain’s Blair takes tumble

Troubles open way for Tories LONDON—Prime Minister Tony Blair and...

Being ‘likable’ isn’t enough

This is what should frighten all of us about...

Disastrous prospect

The nation will spin into chaos if Dion becomes...

Ted Byfield

CBC’s attempt to mould us led to its decline

The CBC disclosed last week it wants to get...

Counter ‘revolution’ brewing in Quebec

English-speaking Canada was given further evidence last week that...

Shades of Tommy Douglas!

Alberta has basked in prosperity until Honest Ed came...

Story behind nation’s religious collapse

Church attendance in the U.S. is now double the...

All laws rely on some moral authority

Separation of church and state a bad idea I said...

David Warren

Robin Hoodism is on the rise

Once upon a time, and in some periodical publication...

Taking on the Reformation

One of the comforts, for a pundit out of...

The miserly Canadian

Canadians, as everyone should know, are tightwads. This is...

Rediscovering the meaning of Christmas

Christians, or at least the Catholic ones, are supposed...

A vocal truth

In addition to the convenient facts—news that fits effortlessly...

Michael Coren

Police politicization: Law breakers ignored while law-abiding protesters treated like criminals

Within the propaganda and tawdry political theatre that is...

Ideological narcissism: Chief’s hunger strike tough to swallow

While I have some sympathy for Irish republicanism, I...

Fashion over debate: Sonny days ahead if Justin Trudeau gets Liberal leadership nod

The world didn’t end recently, and it’s unlikely to...

Insulting fanatics: They’re the people who make up the legalization campaign

Last week on my television show, we interviewed Jodie...

Shrill backlash to men’s rights advocate

For more than two years I wrote a men’s...

Rory Leishman

SPECIAL: A Letter From Rory Leishman: a critic apologizes to him

Editor’s note:  This is the latest in an ongoing...

Media neglect sources of homegrown Islamist extremism

Following the arrest of three more Canadian citizens on...

Shameful neglect of the mentally ill

We Canadians like to think of ourselves as an...

A case study in poverty and corruption

Over the past 30 years, Angola has developed into...

Canada’s real poverty problem

The Conference Board of Canada ranks Canada’s record on...

Theo Caldwell

Canada’s FATCA Capitulation

As of this past week, the Canada Revenue Agency...

Canada’s Complicity in the US Surveillance State

In Canadian political debate, accusing one’s opponent of advocating...

Of course Canada is more business-friendly than the United States

A recent report from Bloomberg News ranks Canada as...

Toronto Mayor is Not a Victim

I voted for Rob Ford. Normally, I embrace the...

Good luck, America (you’ll need it)

And here I believed that Obamacare, chronic 8 percent...

P T B C

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Peter Pan Syndrome

If you’ve ever wandered through a video store wondering why there are so few decent movies out, it’s likely because you’re not the one movie studios are aiming for. As we talked about last week, puberty is hitting younger at the same time as people are taking longer to settle down, leaving a huge cohort with tons of disposable income and no real responsibilities. Their spending drives entertainment, fashion, even our culture as a whole. That’s why we now live in a virtual Peter Pan society, which glorifies freedom and a lack of obligations. What popular culture doesn’t talk about quite so much about are the repercussions of wasting one’s very important twenties and even thirties.

As a parent, when one’s 16-year-old is out having fun, we rejoice. But if one’s 26-year-old is still out partying instead of settling down, we start to worry. That carefree 16-year-old, though, is not necessarily going to turn into a responsible twenty-something, though, without parents steering in the right direction.

I’m determined not to raise my kids to expect me to care for them when they’re adults. I’m already looking forward to the days when they’re going to have to take care of me! So my goal for the next few years is to give them increasing responsibility, so that they’ll yearn for autonomy later.

Giving kids responsibility, though, doesn’t necessarily mean letting your 16-year-old go with her friends on a spring break trip to Florida. It may mean encouraging her to work during March break instead. Too often we confuse responsibility with freedom, thinking that if we let our kids act independently we’re teaching them to grow up. That’s not true, because as a kid you don’t have to deal with the repercussions of irresponsibility in the same way you do as an adult. Too much freedom as a teen can actually inhibit maturity. So responsibility must come before independence. My youngest is due to leave for school when I’m 45, so I’ve developed my personal “Freedom 45” plan to give them that responsibility, and thus ease them into independence.

First, when the kids were little, we taught them that they needed to work to get money. We’ve always made the kids do chores for allowance (even a three-year-old can dust a coffee table, albeit not well). Then, if we’re out and they ask for a chocolate bar or an ice cream cone, we always say, “you have to pay for it with your own money”. The urge for chocolate, especially for girls, is a very good incentive to learn the value of work.

Now that my oldest is on the threshold of those teen years, we’re going to institute a clothing allowance. On her birthday, we’ll hand her the money that has to last her until next year. We’ll prepare the budget together, researching everything she will reasonably need. Then it’s up to her to make sure that money stretches. If it doesn’t, or if she decides she wants too many brand names, she’ll have to do some serious baby-sitting. It’s not my problem anymore.

And what about higher education? My husband and I paid most of our way through, with our parents helping out, but we did that when it was still possible to earn enough money working through the summers.  Today that’s just a pipedream. But that doesn’t mean parents should just hand over the money, either. If kids have no stake in their education, they’re more likely to squander it. So our compromise is going to be the grant system, probably on a 3:1 basis. If they save $1,000, they get $3,000 from us, and so on. That way they know they have to earn money, too. And if they don’t decide to go to higher education, but come up with a really good business plan for their own business, we’ll be open to that, as well.

Will this guarantee they don’t grow up to be female Peter Pans? I have no idea. But it’s worth a try. Life is too important to waste your twenties away. And too many who do waste their twenties never really recover, even into their thirties. So far, this is the best insurance plan I’ve come up with. I’ll let you know how it turns out.

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